Yes, I remember that.
“I used the word ‘complicity’ a bit ago. I like the word. To me, it indicates an unspoken understanding between two people, a kind of pre-sense, if you like. The first hint that you may be suited, before the nervous trudgery of finding out whether you ‘share the same interests,’ or have the same metabolism, or are sexually compatible, or both want children, or however it is that we argue consciously about our unconscious decisions. Later, looking back, we will fetishize and celebrate the first date, the first kiss, the first holiday together, but what really counts is what happened before this public story: that moment, more of a pulse than of thought, which goes, Yes, perhaps her, and Yes, perhaps him.”
– Complicity, by Julian Barnes